ARE YOU FINISHED YET?
Alright, I know it’s a first world problem but it’s starting to ruin my sex life. I’m lasting too long. I know, right, so terrible! But jokes aside I’ve heard of edging to help with premature, but what can I do for post mature? And I don’t just mean 30-60 mins, I’m talking 2-3 hours. Tried spicing it up and that didn’t help. Hearing her say “have you finished yet?” really isn’t as good as you might think. Thoughts? Matt, Location Withheld
While I’m sure a lot of guys might jokingly say they envy your ‘problem’, but I totally get how this could be a bummer! Basically, if you’re not having any issues getting and keeping it up, but it’s taking longer than 30 minutes (of penetrative sex) to climax, you might be dealing with what doctors would consider ‘delayed ejaculation’. Yip, actually a thing – and it affects most men at some stage in their lives. Are you experiencing delays when you play solo, or is it just when you’re having sex with a partner? Are you feel stressed or distracted? If you’re already worried about how long it can take to come, you might be putting even more pressure on yourself to perform. Perhaps take some ‘you’ time and see what happens. If you’re continually finding it difficult to reach orgasm it’s important to have a yarn with your GP about it. It may be a side- effect of a medication you’re taking, or there could be other psychological or physical factors in play. Side note – alcohol and the use of certain recreational drugs can have an impact, so keep that in mind if this could be having an impact on your happy ending.